Posts Tagged ‘name change’

Registry completion

Today we went to Macy’s to pick up the last of our registry goods. We had gone last week to buy the rest of the stuff that we definitely wanted but had not received as gifts. We got everything at a majorly AWESOME price, most especially on our cookware.


Our All-Clad take

Everything in the photo above was purchased for under $550, including tax. That box in the middle is their 10 piece stainless steel set which normally runs $680 alone. They were having a deal where if you buy over $500 of All-Clad products, you get a bonus cast aluminum dutch oven free. Only they didn’t have that in stock, so they let us have other All-Clad products up to the value of the dutch oven – which was $170! We chose a French skillet and marble pizza stone. They ran about $40 over the $170, but we just had to pay the difference.

Then, because we were completing our registry, we got 10% off. Except that for the next month, they bumped that to 20% off. They were also having 15% off all All-Clad products! So we got the 10 piece set for 35% off, and they even gave us the 20% off of the $40 balance on the free items. I’m pretty sure we weren’t allowed to layer all of those coupons and deals together at ALL, but Macy’s employees are some of the most powerful employees that exist. I think they may be THE most powerful of any retail store. All you have to do is ask “can’t we stack these?”, they scan the coupons, the computer does not accept it, and they override the prices anyway so that the customer is happy. Works for me! We saved tons on this stuff. Can’t wait to start using it!

Before that, we went to update my name on our apartment lease. They took a copy of the marriage certificate, but in the end decided that since our lease is up at the end of August, they will just wait and put it correctly on the new lease. It seems weird to me that it’s ok to be wrong for a month, especially them knowing it’s wrong, but whatever, it’s their lease.

After the lease, I mailed in my passport for updating. My coworker pointed out the other day that there is probably a lot of people with renewal paperwork freshly sent in, as a result of the rate hikes the other week. So who knows when I might get it back. At least I don’t need it anytime soon that I know of.

We also went to update my name at Chase. The teller sent us to a very, very, VERY calm fellow in “account services” in the cubicle portion of the…store? He was too calm. Everything was v e r y  s l o w and drawn out. And apparently, they have no authority to update my name on the credit card issued by them, only on the deposit accounts. What kind of nonsense is that? So I have to call on Monday to update the credit card. This after I already contacted them online and said what is the procedure to update it, and they said to go in! Gah.

This evening I’ve been playing what SHOULD have been the bulk of our wedding reception music. Our DJ didn’t play at least 1/4 of the songs we gave him, which I considered to be our “must-play” list, and which did not fill up the entire time of the reception anyway. But I can’t change that now. In any case, it has been fun listening to these hand-picked songs. Josh and I danced to one of the slow songs which did not get played at the actual wedding, and it was nice. We’re not really dancers, but now and again we do enjoy dancing together.

Tomorrow we should probably get to steppin’ on writing our thank-you notes. When we were receiving gifts before the actual wedding, I would usually write them out within a few days of receiving the item. But now suddenly there’s a whole bunch at one time and the mere thought of it is daunting. I just need to break it up and only write a couple a night, just need to get started!

Changing my name, part deux

My coworkers had fun today. That’s because every couple of minutes they got to hear “Hi, I need to update the last name on my account”. Hooray for banks and other places having the same business hours as I work. What I have learned is this:

  • All credit cards will change your name over the phone, with no proof required
  • All banks will give you a hard time and require ridiculous quantities of proof
  • Every bank has different requirements
  • Frequent flyer programs have some of the strictest requirements

All of this seems quite absurd to me. My one recommendation if you’re getting married soon and planning to change your name, is close as many accounts as you feel you will no longer want or need. It will save considerable time. I’m thinking of just closing and reopening accounts just to avoid this hassle!

I managed to get all of my credit cards updated – well actually, Bank of America requires me to fill out some form which they will send. Zero banks let me update the name. Most of them won’t let me until I have my new driver license – my appointment at the DMV is not until 8/23 and I won’t have it until a few weeks after that, so I guess my bank info will just be wrong for a few months. Some of them let me fax over some documentation, but we’ll see how long it takes to actually update. Tomorrow I am going in person to Chase, one of the few (only?) banks that has local branches. Some banks even told me that I flat out was NOT allowed to change the name on my account – I don’t see why not, if I can change it legally.

All investment accounts required me to fill out their specialized form and mail that in, so I did that for 3 providers. However, Schwab only allows an in-person update, so I used my lunch hour to take care of that. It was easy enough once I got there, but just having to go in-person during work hours was annoying.

I also updated as many of my online accounts as I could think of. The good news is that 99% of them just let you make the change yourself online, phew! Can you imagine calling up every place ever? Too much work!

Tomorrow we get to go update our apartment lease. Hopefully that doesn’t turn into too much paperwork!

Changing my name

Today I embarked upon the hassle that is changing my name. I started by going down to the good ol county clerk to get a couple of certified copies of our marriage certificate. While I was there, a  mini courthouse wedding was gathering. It was cute – about 20 people, all dressed up and taking pictures. The bride had a little bouquet and was dressed casually in a white linen skirt and tan top. She and all of the guests looked so incredibly happy, and the other patrons at the clerk’s office smiled and watched as they took photos.

I got 2 copies of the marriage certificate, just in case I had to send it off somewhere. When we got the marriage license, I did not fill out the fields for “new name”, and the clerk who recorded it even asked me, puzzled, “you won’t be changing your name??” I politely told her that I wasn’t sure yet what I would be doing. Later I worried that not having filled out those fields meant I wouldn’t be allowed to change it without petitioning the court.

Then it was off to the social security office! Surprisingly, I was next in line right when I got there. There were 2 lines – some had numbers that started with “A”, and others with “B”. Mine was “A” and I guess the other 20 or so people there were in the “B” category. When it was my turn, I handed over my SS form and marriage certificate. I thought they would surely confiscate my old SS card, but they did not, and did not even ask to see it. The person helping me did not care that I hadn’t filled out the “new name” fields on the marriage  certificate – I guess it doesn’t really matter, which makes me wonder: why do those fields exist at all?! To confuse and bewilder, as they had done to me?

The good news is, all of that took a mere 45 minutes. 45 minutes to become someone else. I then began looking into all the other places that needed updating, which is basically anywhere you’ve ever given your name, ever. I’ll probably be updating accounts for years, decades even. I concentrated on the bigger ones for now – I started with Facebook! I literally did. That was actually really easy and the update took effect immediately. Plus then you can sit back and wait for people to “like” the change, and that makes you feel good :)

Next I changed it on my Gmail and Yahoo accounts. Gmail took 2 hours to kick in – and even then, if someone has you in their contact list with your old name, your new name will never be displayed in their chat list – at least not until they manually update that on their end. Meanwhile, Yahoo didn’t seem to take effect at all – all mails going out still show my old name, even though on my account settings my new name is listed. Confusing.

Ok, time to get down to the real, legal documents. Next up: passport. I just got this thing this year, it’s kind of annoying to have to fill out another application and send back the one I just got with the stamp from my honeymoon, and all that rigamaroll. The good news is, if you’ve received your latest passport within the last year, it’s FREE to get your name changed and have a new one sent to you. If it’s been more than a year since your last passport was sent to you, you have to fill out the standard passport renewal form – and pay the standard renewal fees. Luckily I have another 5 months to send mine in and be within the 1 year period.

One curious area on the passport form: they ask if you are changing your name, and if so, what is it due to (only choices are “marriage” and “other”), what was your former name, the date of the name change, and the place of the name change. I don’t know about everyone else, but those last 2 stopped me for a good 30 minutes from filling out the rest of the form. Date – well, I went to Social Security today, so it was today, right? But then on the SS website it says “if you change your name due to marriage or otherwise, you are required to notify us” which makes me think surely something else triggered the actual change, and today I was merely notifying them. So did the marriage itself trigger the change, making the date of the name change the same as the date of the marriage? But I hadn’t filled out those “new name” fields on the marriage license, which it stated “would take effect upon solemnization of the marriage”! Did that mean I missed my chance entirely, and my name was not changed at all? But surely it was, as Social Security had updated it! So much confusion. In the end I chose to use the date of the marriage on the passport form – it was within the last month anyway, so hopefully they don’t care too much, even though it was not an optional field!

Then, place of name change? Well that depends – is it the city you got the license in, the city you got married in, or the city you went to Social Security? For me, all 3 of those were different. Who knows which one was the actual place that made it count? Not me. In the end I just listed the state and hoped for the best.

Next I filled out an updated voter registration and prepped that to mail out. At this point I had had enough of this name change stuff and abandoned the task until later on. Although later in the day, I did investigate it with a few banks. I will recap that tomorrow though, as THAT is A-WHOLE-NOTHER story!